Those of you who know me, know that I have a passion for computers.

I've been a professional software engineer for over 12 years, have taught computer programming for over 4 years at Portland Community College, and have about a dozen web sites that I maintain - with another few in the works.

I try hard to keep it all in balance with my family life, but I haven't been doing as well as I should lately.

In fact, last week my kids confronted me with "Dad, we think you love your computer more than us". They were dead serious too!

I brushed it of at first, but eventually realized that I needed to listen to them and make some changes. I even agreed to pay them each a dollar if they caught me on the computer.

So far I've paid them $5.

But it's helping me kick the habit and spend the time when they're awake, well... with them, instead of on the laptop. The deal goes until tomorrow (Feb 9th), but I'm thinking about extending it again another week, for my own good (and theirs).

How do we as dad's get so caught up in our careers or hobbies?

Why is it so easy for us as men to wrap our identify in our performance?

I truly find enjoyment and satisfaction from my work, and there's nothing wrong with that. What I need help with is keeping that drive in perspective with the other aspects of my life.

What are your passions, and how do you keep them in balance/perspective?